How to Talk and Negotiate With a Sex Worker

What is it really like to negotiate with a prostitute? If you’re looking for a naughty adventure with no strings attached, hiring a sex worker is one of the easiest ways to get your needs met. However, reaching out to a sex worker may not be as straightforward as you may think. Here’s how to talk and negotiate with a sex worker!

You Can Ask Questions

For starters, there’s much more to hiring a sex worker than just kinky fun and pleasure. While sex is the main goal of your encounter, booking a date can be slightly awkward or confusing to first-timers because of some unspoken rules. The first thing you could do is read up on sex workers in your area. You should research the legalities and rules and really think about what you want. Then, when you get in touch with a sex work agency, don’t shy away from asking questions. That can include questions about pricing, how the service works, condom use, as well as the worker’s limits.

Asking questions will help you define the boundaries of your exchange clearly. This will keep the encounter strictly professional. When the worker responds to you, you should remember their answers and respect their rules during your date.

Also, when inquiring about the details of your date, you can ask the sex workers some questions that you would normally ask your friends. For example, talk to them about how their day is going, and they will appreciate your concern.

Be Chill About It

There’s no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed while talking to a service provider or sex worker. At the end of the day, their job is to make you feel good while keeping the experience safe and friendly. Yet, it’s easy to be nervous or freak out while negotiating your date due to all the stigma that’s attached to sex workers. So keep an open mind, chill out, and act natural. When you make a booking, just treat it like any other engagement. Think about how you would usually make an appointment and treat the sex worker just like any other person.

If you’re too nervous or if you appear too freaked out, you could make the sex worker uncomfortable. Then, they may end up charging you more or rejecting to provide you with their service. On the other hand, it’s okay to be a little jumpy, and most sex workers will try their best to make you feel comfortable. If you can’t find a way to go with the flow, just be honest and tell the sex worker that you’re a bit nervous. Then, both of you will be on the same page, and it will be much easier to relax.

Be Respectful

As we’ve said, hiring a sex worker should be no different than booking any other service. However, it’s not just about giving the sex worker money in exchange for letting you do whatever you want.

Obviously, you will need to be respectful and polite. You shouldn’t ignore the worker’s rules and requests. That is, if they clearly tell you about what’s off-limits, don’t try to push them and ignore their boundaries. You’ll need to find out their limits and outline your expectations to have a safe and fun encounter. Ultimately, you can only have a good time if both sides remain respectful of each other.

Yes, You Can Just Ask to Hang Out

What if sex isn’t your end goal? If you want to spend some time with a sex worker without getting intimate, it’s definitely possible to hire an escort or prostitute for their companionship.

Generally, many workers will offer companionship rates, and they frequently get requests to simply hang out with their clients. Depending on the kind of service you find, you could take the sex worker on a date to just spend some time with them and discuss whatever is on your mind. Sometimes, this is called the “girlfriend experience.” While sex isn’t involved, it can help you fulfill a relationship fantasy, cuddle, talk, etc. A lot of prostitutes could favor this sort of exchange over sex because it is less risky. Moreover, it’s a quick way for them to make money. However, not all sex workers will be comfortable with this as they might not want to form such a connection with their clients.

Reach Out Properly

Like we’ve said, it’s up to you to do the research and ask the right questions. If it’s your first time, you’ll need to know how to reach out properly and be professional. Most importantly, you should focus on what the agency/sex worker has asked of you. Usually, you will need to give your name and discuss the time/location of your date. Then, you can outline your needs and talk to the service provider about the services you’ll be receiving.

Remember, keep it professional and avoid any “I want to stick this into that hole” statements or similar. It’s also important not to send unsolicited pictures or take it too far with sexting. Most sex workers will appreciate a bit of contact and flirtiness, but only once you arrange all the details of your date.

Be Clear of What You Want

If you’re looking for something specific (a kink or fetish), it’s best to find a provider that offers those kinds of services from the get-go. You may not be able to get what you want if you contact the first sex worker that you find online. The best tip here is to ask the agency/worker about your requests. Then, see what they can do for you. Additionally, note that the pricing is not set. Every individual worker will charge you differently depending on the service you’re after.

If you’re into costumes or have specific requests, you might get an additional charge because that requires more preparation. Also, if you have some rules regarding your fetish, not every sex worker will be able to follow them. If they do, they could charge a high price. Finally, regardless of your kink or request, you should be clear with your expectations.

The Bottom Line

As you can see, hiring a sex worker isn’t only about money and sex. Hopefully, we’ve shown you how to reach out to sex workers properly to have an amazing and safe experience! Have fun!

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