Preparing For Your First Anal Sex Experience

It is unlikely that you will find a more polarized opinion than the one about anal sex. People either love it or hate it. But even if you are someone who engages in anal play, there are several things you need to do to prepare for it. After all, preparation might be as crucial as anal sex itself to ensure that both you and your partner enjoy it. Parts of the process involve toys, training kits, lubricants, as well as hygiene before and after the act. 

There are so many women that love anal sex, and the possibility of having an anal orgasm is more than thrilling. If you are looking to try something new and exciting, our tips and tricks might open a whole new world of possibilities for you. So without further ado, let’s dive into the things you need to do to get ready for anal. 

Talking to Your Partner About Anal Sex Beforehand

Since the whole opinion on anal sex is so polarized (nearly 50% of women have tried it), the most important thing is consent. When it comes to the act itself, it is essential that the receiving partner wants to try it. So, for anal sex, it needs to be a hard yes. If someone has to persuade you, then this might not be the right thing for you.

So before you oil your toy or prepare your butthole, you need to talk to your partner about it. Partners need to trust each other to ensure that everything feels comfortable and smooth. Needless to say, slipping in the “wrong hole” is one of the worst ideas a person can get when it comes to sex. 

Having spontaneous sex is fantastic, but that doesn’t apply to anal, especially if someone has little to no experience with it. So take your time and talk to each other if you want to have a wonderful time. Moreover, the communication shouldn’t stop at planning and preparing for anal sex. Talk to your partner even after it starts so that they can know how you feel, what they should do, or if you want them to stop.  

Choosing the Right Color, Type, and Size for Beginners

If you are experimenting with toys, they can only help you spice up your butt play! However, you need to ensure that the toys are appropriate. You don’t want to stupefy someone by pulling out a horse dildo. Beginners should start small and work their way up. It is also a smart idea to experiment a bit by yourself before you let your partner take the helm. Similarly to masturbation, you need to know your body and what feels good for you. And whatever you do, be sure to use lots of lube and to use it often! 

Another option to dildos is to try out butt plugs. These toys are designed to stay in place and create pressure on the rectum and anal sphincter. Furthermore, thanks to the toy’s flared base, there is no chance that you lose it. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t have a cervix or a “full stop.” 

Butt plugs, like many other toys, come in all shapes and sizes. You can find the color that you like, design, material, shape, and nearly anything else. But don’t try to impress someone by picking the largest one you can find. The goal of anal sex is for both parties to feel pleasure, and if you were reluctant at one point (and even if you weren’t), you probably wouldn’t enjoy pain. 

So try either smaller butt plugs, dildos, or any other toy that can help you experiment and push your limits. Finally, you can always start with a finger to see how that feels. If at any point you feel pain or discomfort, just stop. You are the one that should be dictating the pace and how fast things will progress. 

Using an Anal Training Kit for Preparation

For everyone looking to try out something new, there are anal prep kits available on the market. In them, you will get everything you need to prepare your anus for the adventure that is to come. For example, you can find plugs of various shapes and sizes that are designed to ensure a painless and enjoyable experience. Usually, these kits arrive with lubricants as well, so you will have all that you need to start preparing. 

Since, by default, the anus is not prepared for sex, you will need to train it to make it accustomed to this type of activity. Anal training is not only welcome, but it’s necessary. The fact that both beginners and experienced people do it should tell you just how vital it really is. 

Trainees will get to know how it feels like, and they can proceed with the training if they are looking to stretch their butthole for more fun. On the other hand, those familiar with anal sex still use these kits as a warm-up.

After a while, you will get used to the feeling of fullness, and with enough practice, you won’t be as tense as you were the first time. If the recipient of anal penetration is tense, it might make the act rather difficult — and not to mention painful. 

Hygiene Before and After Anal Sex

Hygiene is one of the most critical aspects of both anal and vaginal sex. You will need to prepare both mentally and physically. Besides anal training kit for breaking in, you will need to pay attention to your hygiene as well. 

While baby wipes, soap, and water can do the trick, there are other ways to clean yourself before the fun begins. A lot of people use an enema to clean the rectum before sex. Of course, that is not mandatory, and you don’t need to do it if you don’t feel like it. 

Now, do keep in mind that there is a possibility of an unwanted mess during sex. But you should know that poop is not located in the anal canal but in the upper bowels instead. It is also a good idea to go to the bathroom thirty or sixty minutes before anal play. After that, you can shower, which will help you feel more clean and comfortable. 

Regarding anal sex hygiene, a simple shower will do the trick (both before and after). It is possible that the receiving party will have micro-tears in their sphincters that could cause an infection if bacteria get into them. That is why rinsing the area and cleaning yourself thoroughly will help avoid that. 


Anal sex can be fun, but it is necessary to prepare for it, especially if you are a beginner. Before everything, you should talk to your partner and make sure you’re on the same page. Moreover, the receiving person needs to be entirely on board if they are looking to have a good time. It is always an excellent idea to try anal training kits first, which can help you prepare for the “real action.” Of course, it is essential to start slow and small and build your way up from there. 

Another critical aspect of anal sex preparation is hygiene. It would be perfect if you could shower both before and after it. However, if that is not possible, unscented baby wipes can do the trick. Finally, take your time and dictate the pace. Anal sex should be enjoyable for everyone, and making sure that you are properly prepared can make all the difference in the world. 

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